I am an ordinary mum.I have epilepsy, chronic migraines, a 16 year old prolapsed disc in my spine and M.E. I had to give up lecturing psychology, sociology and Health & Socail Care to look after my son when he was diagnosed with autism at the age of 3. I live with Tristram and his dad on a Scottish smallholding with a few horses, dogs and sheep.I have 4 children, all boys, and the youngest boy will be 17 on the 24th July 2015. My three eldest have left home now and are all happily working and doing thier own thing. Tristram will never be able to leave home and live on his own. He has classical autism with all the standard features - lack of eye gaze, severe difficulties with communication, unable to socialise, difficulty forming and maintaining relationships. His dad cares for us both really because my difficulties mean that I cannot reliably know what I can or cannot do each day. He has his own difficulties. He has minor injuries and aches and pains that never quite go because he cannot just down tools and rest up enough to recover properly.Basically we are an ordinary family. Many people would question this and ask how on earth can we be normal? The answer is simple - we manage because however ordinary we are, the difficulties we face on a daily basis are our 'normal'. We don't know anything else now and it's just a matter of getting on and dealing with everyday life as it is - not as we would prefer it to be.